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Talking plus Tapping equals Healing

All summer I watched a cygnet swimming with his parents. At first, he was a tiny thing and the parents swam very close to him, pecking at turtles that came near. As he grew, they swam farther and showed him how to fish. They brought him to shore where he copied their grooming habits and practiced stretching his little wings. Today when I arrived at the beach, I witnessed the father swan teaching his rather grown-up cygnet to fly. The cygnet ran on the water, beating its wings. When it stopped, the father repeated the running sequence and finished by lifting his great body into a glide over the surface of the lake. Before the swans fly south for the winter, the cygnet will have learned to fly too. He’s been watching his parents all summer.

Like the cygnet, our children learn by watching and mimicking us. What we do will have a much greater impact on them then what we say. While helping our children find balance with homeopathic remedies and other natural health science methods is important, demonstrating our own commitment to heal and balance ourselves is the greater gift. When we claim responsibility for our own health and well-being, we encourage our children to do the same. If we can teach our children a simple technique for getting calm and centered, we give them a skill that will serve them throughout their lives.

Tapping + Talking = Healing

Think about a traumatic event from your past. Maybe a teacher humiliated you for not understanding something. Maybe your child had a tantrum at church and all eyes were on you. Maybe you were in a car crash or witnessed a terrible accident.Take a moment to really think about one such event. Close your eyes and notice how you feel. Is your heart beating faster? Is your throat constricting? Are you cringing? Can you feel yourself getting angry or scared or sad?

Traumatic events elicit a physical response. They cause the body to contract and harden. This tension prevents energy from circulating freely in the body.

Healing Trauma

Energy is the invisible foundation for health in the body. The body is composed of energy pathways and energy centers that are in a dynamic interplay with the cells, organs, moods, and thoughts. This is why we feel sadness and joy and fear in our bodies.

When a traumatic event disrupts the flow of energy, physical ailments and emotional imbalances may result. Sometimes, these last long after the event is over and injuries have healed.

Homeopathic remedies, acupuncture balance the flow of energy and restore harmony. Using these energetic healing techniques, we influence our health, emotions and state of mind.

When you consider the many small and BIG traumas we experience, it is easy to understand why it is necessary to dedicate time to healing for ourselves and our children. Accidents, teasing, bullying, and loss all leave their marks on us. By supporting ourselves with homeopathy and EFT, we can learn and grow from these experiences instead of being squashed and crippled by them.

What Happens When You Tap Acupoints

Most therapies address the cognitive and emotional aspects of trauma. Stimulating the meridian points using EFT or acupressure addresses the physiological component, leading to deep, lasting healing.

Learning and using EFT, a meridian tapping technique, enables you to participate actively in your own growth and healing. EFT can rebalance your body and enable you to cope with the demands of living with autistic and other uniquely magnificent children.

Background and History

More than 5000 years ago, the Chinese discovered that by applying pressure to specific points (acupoints) on the body, they could

  1. alleviate physical symptoms,
  2. improve functioning of internal organs, and
  3. balance emotions.

Acupoints have significantly lower electrical resistance than other areas of the skin and are sensitive to mechanical stimulation. In the 1980s, John Diamond and Roger Callahan began to apply acupuncture to psychological issues. A decade later, Gary Craig developed EFT.

Tension and pain accumulate at acupoints. By tapping the standard points used in EFT, you will bring balance to all of the major energy pathways in your body. As you tap, your emotions will shift. Often, old memories will surface. In this way, EFT offers a way to bring energetic disturbances to the surface to be healed. Just as blood vessels nourish the body physically, meridians circulate healing energy to all systems of the body.

Expect Results

Begin now to gently and permanently heal your own old wounds. This will make you a more effective parent, partner, and person.  For most people, working with a professional produces the quickest results.  I offer free 15-minute consultations if you would like to talk before determining if I am the right practitioner for you.  (I will happily refer you to another practitioner if we are not a match).

You can also use EFT for yourself anytime, anywhere.  All that is required is the most basic knowledge of the technique which I describe here.

As you empower yourself by actively participating in your own healing experience, you will be modeling self-responsibility and empowerment for your children.  What a gift!

In matters of health and healing, be fanatical about self-responsibility. Check facts and carefully evaluate if suggestions are right for you and your children.

 

 

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Homeopathy for Loss and Grieving

The shock, pain and sadness of loss may be experienced after any separation. For children, this may be a move to a new area, the end of a friendship, or the loss of a pet or a loved one. For a parent, the ultimate loss is the loss of a child. There are other losses that are significant: divorce, loss of independence, and loss of dreams.

Those who want to be parents but face infertility, grieve. When a child is diagnosed with a developmental dis-order such as autism or PDD-NOS, parents feel the pain of a loss for the child that could have been. It takes time to adjust expectations and embrace the life we have, rather than the life we envisioned.

Autism rights activist Jim Sinclair wrote: Parents often report that learning their child is autistic was the most traumatic thing that ever happened to them.

Some non-autistic people see autism as a great tragedy, and some parents experience continuing disappointment and grief at all stages of the child’s and family’s life cycle.

This grief does not stem from the child’s autism in itself. It is grief over the loss of the normal child the parents had hoped and expected to have. Parents’ attitudes and expectations, and the discrepancies between what parents expect of children at a particular age and their own child’s actual development, may cause more stress and anguish than the practical complexities of life with an autistic person.

Some amount of grief is natural as parents adjust to the fact that an event and a relationship they’ve been looking forward to isn’t going to materialize. But grief over a fantasized normal child needs to be separated from the parents’ perceptions of the child they do have. (I encourage you to read the whole article Don’t Mourn for Us by Jim Sinclair, from which the above is exerted.)

Advice for Bereavement

As with all the information that I provide, please take that which serves you and let the rest go.

  • Acknowledge the loss.
  • Whether the loss seems big or small, honor the feelings you are experiencing.
  • Do not feel guilty that you are grieving the fantasized normal child or your dream that your child would be playing golf or piano or talking by now.
  • All feelings are valid.
  • Be prepared for waves of emotion.

  • All of your feelings will not come at once.
  • Be gentle with yourself.
  • Feel whatever you are feeling without trying to put on a happy face – or trying to do anything.
  • Allow yourself to have your own experience.

  • Everyone processes loss differently.
  • Do not judge yourself by the experiences or time-lines of others, even if they experienced a similar loss.
  • Accept that you will learn to live with this loss and that you may never “get over it.”

  • Some losses are too big to “get over.”
  • You can laugh and go out and enjoy a meal or a movie.
  • You can enjoy life even while grieving.
  • You can be sad for “too long.”
  • You do not need to justify or explain your process.
  • Seek and accept support that is right for you.

  • Support Yourself with Cell Salts

  • The cell salts calc phos and kali phos offer gentle support for grieving mothers, fathers, and children.

Homeopathy for Loss

In the chart below, I list a few of the remedies commonly indicated for loss and grief.

Taking a homeopathic remedy will not numb your feelings or make you forget the loss. The remedy will support you and assist you in processing your emotions.

 

Remedy

Indications

Ignatia

  •  Grief with shock after the loss of a child, parent, friend or pet.
  •  Fighting the tears and swallowing your feelings.
  •  Feel a lump in the throat.
  •  Crazy laughter alternating with pitiful tears.
  • First remedy to consider for recent losses.

Gelsemium

  •  Paralysed with grief, possibly after the death of a child.
  •  Hard to cry.
  •  Sluggish. Complete lack of energy.
  •  Mind goes blank.

Nat Mur

Pulsatilla

  •  Grief-struck and weepy.
  •  Cries easily, especially when talking about what happened.

Staphysagria

  •  Resentment after loss.
  •  Angry. Blaming.

I recently came across another remedy for deep grief.  “Cygnus cygnus is a powerful remedy for deep seated grief that pervades the psyche with a deep sorrow that cannot be overcome.”  Read more here.

Where to Buy and How to Take Homeopathic Remedies

Homeopathic remedies may be purchased at most health food stores or through websites such as 1-800homeopathy.  Select the 30c potency.

To take the remedy, open the remedy vial and shake 3-4 pellets into the cap. Tip the pellets into the mouth without touching the cap to the mouth. Allow the pellets to dissolve in the mouth.

Take the remedy every evening at bedtime, at least 15 minutes after eating, drinking, and brushing teeth. Continue for one week. Evaluate how you feel. If you feel better, stop taking the remedy. If symptoms resume later, take the remedy for another week.

If you do not feel different, select a different remedy or consult a homeopath who can help you choose the correct remedy for you.

In matters of health and healing, be fanatical about self-responsibility. Cell Salts and homeopathic remedies enable you to participate actively in your own healing.  At the same time, you should continue to see your doctor and therapist for examinations, advice, and treatment.    Nothing on this site is intended as a substitute for medical advice.

References for this post:

Miranda Castro:  Homeopathic Guide to Stress:  Safe and Effective Natural Ways to Alleviate Physical and Emotional Stress.

Didier Grandgeorge, MD:  The Spirit of Homeopathic Medicines:  Essential Insights to 300 Remedies.

 

Remedy

Indications

Ignatia

  • Grief with shock after the loss of a child, parent, friend or pet.  (Very useful for recent losses.)
  • Fighting the tears and swallowing your feelings.
  • Feel a lump in the throat.
  • Crazy laughter alternating with pitiful tears.
  • Paralysed with grief, possibly after the death of a child.
  • Hard to cry.
  • Sluggish.  Complete lack of energy.
  • Mind goes blank.
  • Old grief.  Or, a new grief that awakens the unexpressed sadness from old losses.
  • See Nat Mur:  A Remedy for Almost Everybody
  • Grief-struck and weepy.
  • Cries easily, especially when talking about what happened.
  • Resentment after loss.
  • Angry.  Blaming.

Gelsemium

Nat Mur

Pulsatilla

Staphysagria

Remedy

Indications

Ignatia

  •  Grief with shock after the loss of a child, parent, friend or pet. (Very useful for recent losses.)
  •  Fighting the tears and swallowing your feelings.
  •  Feel a lump in the throat.
  •  Crazy laughter alternating with pitiful tears.
  •  Paralysed with grief, possibly after the death of a child.
  •  Hard to cry.
  •  Sluggish. Complete lack of energy.
  •  Mind goes blank.
  •  Old grief. Or, a new grief that awakens the unexpressed sadness from old losses.
  •  See Nat Mur: A Remedy for Almost Everybody
  •  Grief-struck and weepy.
  •  Cries easily, especially when talking about what happened.
  •  Resentment after loss.
  •  Angry. Blamin

Gelsemium

Nat Mur

Pulsatilla

Staphysagria

Remedy

Indications

Ignatia

  • Grief with shock after the loss of a child, parent, friend or pet.  (Very useful for recent losses.)
  • Fighting the tears and swallowing your feelings.
  • Feel a lump in the throat.
  • Crazy laughter alternating with pitiful tears.
  • Paralysed with grief, possibly after the death of a child.
  • Hard to cry.
  • Sluggish.  Complete lack of energy.
  • Mind goes blank.
  • Old grief.  Or, a new grief that awakens the unexpressed sadness from old losses.
  • See Nat Mur:  A Remedy for Almost Everybody
  • Grief-struck and weepy.
  • Cries easily, especially when talking about what happened.
  • Resentment after loss.
  • Angry.  Blaming.

Gelsemium

Nat Mur

Pulsatilla

Staphysagria

 

 

 

 

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Goodbye Tantrums, Goodbye Asthma: Two Cases of Nat Mur

Because there was significant interest in my recent post, Nat Mur:  A Remedy for (Almost) Everybody, I am sharing the healing stories of two clients for whom I prescribed Nat Mur. I hope that in reading these case studies, you will perceive how homeopathy facilitates healing transformation.

Important:  When prescribing remedies, homeopaths look for remedy that matches the individual’s picture at that time. Most homeopathic remedies have hundreds of applications. When prescribed constitutionally, remedies build health and strengthen the vital force. The individual’s vital force initiates and accelerates healing.

A remedy prescribed for migraines in one person and might well be prescribed for constipation in another and eczema in yet someone else.

Kinder, Gentler Tantrums

Lena’s mother came to see me because her five year old daughter exhibited tremendous anger over small things. She was impulsive to the point of being a danger to herself.  She was having a major tantrum or two every day, yelling, kicking, and hitting those around her. She ignored her caregivers, acting as if she did not hear them.

Lena was having trouble falling asleep and woke screaming in the middle of the night two or three times per week – sometimes more than once per night. As you may imagine, this was exhausting and emotionally draining for her mother.

She was also prone to croup, having had it at least five times in the past three winters. She craved candy, milk, and, interestingly for a small child, coffee.

After speaking to Lena’s mother, I compared the totality of her individual symptoms to the known remedies in the materia medica to find a remedy which best covered all of Lena’s expressed symptoms. I selected Nat Mur. (Please note that this is a short, illustrative article. I have not included all symptoms and characteristics discussed.)

I directed the mother to give her daughter one dose of the remedy at bedtime. Lena was also taking cell salts that I had already prescribed during an earlier consultation.

When I followed up a month after the initial consultation, Lena’s mother reported:

“She’s sleeping through the night and the tantrums no longer include aggressively hitting her little sister. She still whines and pushes, but it’s definitely not as combative as it was before. The tantrums seem to be shorter and less intense. They occur when she is hungry or tired.

All in all, it’s been a good few weeks. She’s definitely sleeping better — goes down when I put her to bed and sleeps through the night.”

The mother then said, “One of the major issues she has that I completely forgot to tell you about is eczema. Will the remedy help with that?”

Yes, I replied.  Nat mur is a great remedy for eczema in children.

Bye-Bye Asthma

Matthew’s mother was concerned because her son was allergic many common allergens and had asthma. She disliked giving him asthma medications, but the episodes could be frightening for both of them. She wanted to see if homeopathy might help.

After taking his case, I selected Nat Mur. As in Lena’s case, we gave him one dose of the remedy. A year later, I received this note from Matthew’s mother:

“Have a good update for you. Matthew has had no need for asthma medicine! He had no asthma attacks from last summer until this week when he had a mild one. Was wondering if I should give him another dose of the remedy you chose for him then. 11 months of relief is nothing to sneeze at (ok,its a pun…)”

We did give Matthew another dose of Nat Mur. He is doing well, again.

Treat the patient, not the disease.

This is the most important doctrine of homeopathy. No two human beings are exactly alike and so the medicines used for their treatment need not be alike – even if they have the same disease. Homeopathic medicines are prescribed based on the totality of symptoms of that individual.  The name of the disease is not particularly important to the homeopath.

If you are interested in individualized treatment just for you or your child, you can find a homeopath at the National Center for Homeopathy website.

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Homeopathy for Easier Dentist Visits

Many children — and adults — dread visiting the dentist. For autistic and ultra-sensitive children, such a trip may be distressing on many levels: 1.       Anticipation of pain or the unknown. 2.       Smells of antiseptics, pastes, and polishes assault the nose. 3.       Bright lights are directed onto faces. 4.       Strange sensations and sounds of drilling. Homeopathic remedies can alleviate fears and support dental health and related physical and emotional symptoms.

Top Two Remedies for Fear of Going to the Dentist

Argentum Nitricum:

A child who needs Argentums Nitricum will be very anxious about visiting the dentist. This child probably dreads other ordeals: exams in school or performing on the athletic field or on stage. Their anxiety makes them fidgety.  They make walk around quickly in an attempt to calm themselves. They feel better with someone around to support them.

Gelsemium:  Paralyzed with Fear

Children who need Gelsemium prefer to be left alone in a quiet place. Unlike the active fear of Argentum Nitricum, Gelsemium children seize up mentally and physically before dreaded events. They become dull, apathetic, weak and weary.

When and How to Give These Remedies

If your child begins to feel anxious about visiting the dentist, give one dose of the remedy that best matches his or her symptoms. He or she should feel calmer within 15 minutes. If you do not observe any change in anxiety level, give another dose of the remedy. If still no changes, try the other remedy.

Minimizing or eliminating pain associated with dental procedures and complications from dental work.

Immediately after Dental Procedures

After Surgery

It is useful to take a dose of Arnica 30 and Calendula 30 immediately after dental surgery.  If your child is is bleeding, also give Phosphorus 30.

After a Filling

If your child feels sore and bruised after a filling, give her Arnica 30. The pain may feel like pulling in the teeth while eating, be worse from chewing, and feel worse when touched. If arnica does not help and your child experiences tearing nerve pain that is worse at night and when he  moves, give Hypericum 30.

Cell salts to keep teeth healthy.

If you child’s teeth have caries or other signs of decay or deterioration, it is important to improve her diet.  This may be very challenging for some children who may have multiple food sensitivities or allergies or who strenuously refuse to eat a varied diet. For some ideas on expanding diet, see When Your Child Won’t Eat. The cell salts calc phos, calc fluor, mag phos, and silica will significantly improve tooth health. Give your child three tablets of each applicable cell salt three to five times per day. To treat enamel deficiencies, give Calc Fluor and Calc Phos. Mag Phos helps to harden enamel. Silica aids in the assimilation of nutrients. In matters of health and healing, be fanatical about self-responsibility. Cell Salts and homeopathic remedies enable you to participate actively in your own healing. At the same time, you should continue to see your doctor for examinations, advice and treatment. Nothing on this site is intended as a substitute for medical advice.

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Nat Mur: A Remedy for (Almost) Everybody

A few weeks ago, I visited with my colleague and former classmate, Jeff Sorna. As we enjoyed the type of homeopathy talk that only true remedy enthusiasts can appreciate, Jeff said, “Who, today, doesn’t need some Nat Mur once in a while?”

Synchronicity, ever at play in our lives, subsequently led two clients to express an interest in learning more about this remedy. Because it has so many uses, I thought more of you might be interested.

Why Most People Occasionally Need Nat Mur

The homeopathic remedy Natrum Muriaticum (Nat-m or Nat Mur) is prepared from sodium chloride or common table salt. After water, salt is the most widely distributed substance in a nature, so it is not surprising to discover that many people need it as a homeopathic remedy.

Nat mur is the remedy for ailments from suppressed grief, disappointments, and haunting memories.  Most of us have more than a few of these types of old hurts.  When they manifest as some of the symptoms in the lists below, nat mur may be the remedy needed.

People who need nat mur may have some of these characteristics:

  • Gloomy and depressed
  • Desires to be alone
  • Irritable, private, resentful, sensitive (including to noises)
  • Headaches
  • Cold sores
  • Catch colds easily
  • Discharges like egg white
  • General dryness
  • Eczema
  • Dry mouth, extreme thirst
  • The lower lip sometimes has a crack in the middle
  • Constipation

Children who need nat mur may have the characteristics listed above.  Here are a few more signs and symptoms of children who may need nat nur:

  • Catherine R. Coulter writes:  “Natrum Muriaticum is not the easiest child to have around.”
  • Serious and sensitive
  • Find life difficult
  • Dislike excess physical contact
  • Hate being teased
  • Prone to unexpected rages
  • Best left alone  when upset
  • Often slow learning to talk
  • Sometimes slow learning to walk

Nat Mur as a Cell Salt

No individual will have all of the symptoms or characteristics of a homeopathic remedy.   Because homeopathic remedies are prescribed for individuals, not for diseases, three people prescribed the same remedy will likely have come to see their homeopath for three very different complaints.

If you or your child have many of the symptoms listed above, you may wish to consider taking Nat Mur as a cell salt. Take three pellets, three times per day for a month or two. Watch for changes in your symptoms. Note if you feel better in general or notice:

  • Better sleep
  • Calmer
  • Improved elimination

For on-going or serious issues, schedule an appointment with a homeopath who will ensure that the remedy prescribed is the correct remedy for you.

References for this post:

Miranda Castro.  Homeopathic Guide to Stress.

Catherine R. Coulter.  Homeopathic Sketches of Children’s Types.

Lionel Rolfe & Nigey Lennon.  Nature’s 12 Magic Healers:  Using Homeopathic Cell Salts to Protect or Restore Health.

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What If Everything We Know is Wrong?

“What If Everything You Know is Wrong!”

Bruce H. Lipton, Ph.D. and Steve Bhaerman in Spontaneous Evolution:  Our Positive Future (And a Way to Get There from Here.)

What would happen if the impossible became possible?

What if we could make it happen?

Steve Bhaerman (writing as Swami Beyondananda) says: The best way to face the unknown is by not knowing.

How is your perception of your child shaped by what you “know?”

If you have a child that is very different from the child you expected, you may have had him or her evaluated by a psychiatrist or a developmental pediatrician. Perhaps this professional provided you a list of the things your child will never do. And you believed her.

  • He will never talk or ride a bike.
  • She will never have friends or a social life.
  • He will never have a job and live on his own.
  • She will never play creatively.
  • He will never understand idioms or humor.
  • She will never go to college.
  • He will never get married.

We are influenced by what we see and hear and read.

When we engage experts to evaluate our children, we hope that they will provide useful information. We think that they hold some key that will help us to help our children.

Sometimes, we do receive useful information. Too often though, we are handed a list of problems and “defects” along with a recommendation for weekly therapies that are to go on for years.

What would happen if we believed something different from the prognosis we are given?

People do impossible things every day.

  • People walk on fire. Those who expect the coals to burn them, get burned. Those who don’t, don’t.
  • Twice a year, 50,000 people of the Bakhtiari tribe of Persia walk for days in snow and ice over at 15,000 foot mountain pass during their annual migrations. They walk barefoot.
  • Mothers lift cars that fall on their children.
  • A small group of fundamentalists known as Free Pentecostal Holiness Church drink poison but are not harmed because they believe that God is protecting them.
  • Every day, spontaneous remissions occur and patients who have been told that they will certainly die, recover.

How do people accomplish these impossible feats?

They suspend their limiting beliefs and shift to an unshakeable belief that they will succeed in their mission. Bruce and Steve write: “The hardest part about the belief game is that you either believe something or you don’t – there is no middle ground.”

How to Change Your Beliefs About Your Child — and Yourself

1.  Make a list of what you believe about your child (or yourself.) You may include items such as:

  • My life will always be difficult (with this child).
  • My child will never _______________.
  • My child always _______________.
  • I’m a bad parent (because ________________).

2.  Give each statement a validity rating on a scale of 0 to 10, where 0 is not true at all and 10 is very true or very intense. This is a subjective, internal rating of the intensity of feeling you have about the truth of the statement.  When you ask yourself, “How true is this for me?” write down the number that pops into your head.
3.  Use the basic EFT recipe to begin shifting the hold these beliefs have on you. Do a round (or more) of tapping using as many of the following phrases. Modify the statements or add your own to accommodate your own individual feelings.

  • Even though my life will always be difficult, I’m still a good person.
  • Even though my child will never ________, I can love him AND myself anyway.
  • Even though I’m a bad parent because I _________, I’m doing my best and that’s enough for now.
  • Even though my child always _________ and it’s so (frustrating, embarrassing, painful), I choose to love her and myself anyway.

4.  After a few rounds of tapping, give each statement a validity rating again. Are your feelings less intense or more? As you tapped, did memories or feelings come up? If yes, you can continue tapping on these new feelings. If the memories or feelings are very intense, breathe deeply, imagining the breath flowing into your heart. Stop tapping if this feels right. 

5.  If the feelings are less intense, look at the statements again. Consider how you can begin shifting your beliefs. Start small! Choose something positive and new that you can believe and that you can see relatively quickly. Perhaps you can envision your child putting on one article of clothing without protest or allowing you to place a new food on his plate.  If you don’t believe that your child will get dressed easily, can you believe that there is a possibility that she will be more cooperative.

6. Continue to believe a new impossible thing every day.

Did you know?

Many people with multiple personalities change eye color in the short interval it takes to transition from one ego to the next. Some have scars in one personality that disappear as another personality emerges. Many exhibit allergies and sensitivities in one personality but not another. (Spontaneous Evolution, p. 15)

You can learn how to change your beliefs too. Join one of my mothers’ circles.

This series is continued in Children as Catalysts for Spontaneous Evolution:  The Role of Genes

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Cell Salts for Stomach Flu

“Is it coming out of both ends?” the school nurse asked.  “That’s what is going around. Vomiting and diarrhea with a slight temperature.” Thankfully, that was not the situation in our home. Some sort of gastrointestinal bug had attached itself to one of my children, but the effect was relatively mild. Supported with cell salts, fluids and cuddles, all he wanted was to rest.

If you or yours are affected by one of the GI illnesses that are going around, cell salts are the perfect support system. Taking cell salts will ease severity of symptoms and duration of illness. Cell salts are particularly helpful for restoring mineral balance after the dehydration that accompanies these types of sicknesses.

You can buy cell salts at most health food stores.  I recommend ordering a kit of all 12 from 800homeopathy so that you will have them all on hand when you need them.

Unpleasant Symptoms

Select one to three cell salts that are correspond with your own and your child’s most significant symptoms.  If you look at the list and determine that more than three are indicated, remind yourself that that healing is a journey. More is not always better.

Give the cell salt that is currently indicated.  When symptoms change, change the prescription.

Diarrhea Symptom

Remedy

Children, in Ferrum Phos
Cramping, painful Mag Phos
Greenish, with vomiting of bile Nat Sulph
Painless Kali Phos
Pale stools Kali Mur
Sour Smelling Nat Sulph
Undigested food, with Ferr  Phos, Calc Phos
Watery, involuntary Kali Phos, Nat Mur

 

Vomiting Symptom

Cell Salt

Acid Vomit Nat Phos, Nat Sulph, Nat Mur
General Recommendation, dissolve all in water & sip Ferr Phos, Nat Mur, Kali Mur, Calc Fluor
Nausea, with Mag Phos
Regurgitation of food after eating Mag Phos
Undigested food Ferr Phos, Nat Phos, Calc Phos, Calc Fluor
Watery Nat Mur

Start by taking three pellets of each cell salt you selected three times per day. As symptoms improve, reduce dosing to two, and later one time per day.

To take cell salts, shake three tablets into the cap of the vial. Tip the cap into your mouth without touching the mouth. Allow the tablets to dissolve. Cell salts work best when taken in a clean mouth. Do not eat, drink or brush teeth 15 minutes before or after taking cell salts.

Common-Sense Measure

Rest, sleep, and cuddles are powerful forces in healing. Give your child plenty of love when they are sick.  Remember to offer lots of fluids. Water is necessary for hydration and bone broths will nourish and support the body during illness.

If symptoms are severe or last more than 24 hours, contact your doctor.

Cell Salts for Supporting Return to Health

Once the flu or gastro issue has passed, consider taking Calc Phos, Ferr Phos and Kali Mur to help your body restore vitality and optimal health.

In matters of health and healing, be fanatical about self-responsibility. Cell Salts and homeopathic remedies enable you to participate actively in your own healing.  At the same time, you should continue to see your doctor for examinations, advice and treatment. 

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My Kind of Presence

“Children need us to be present.” I’ve read it in a hundred books and articles. I’ve probably written it myself.

When my children urgently, intensely need me, I can be present. When they are hurt physically or emotionally, I am 100% there. When they hug me, I’m there. During choir concerts, band performances, and karate tests, I watch and feel my heart swell with joy.

But when it comes to helping with homework or playing a game, watching karate practice or swimming lessons, my attention wanes.  No matter how actively I try to give the activity my full attention, half of my brain disengages.

Noticing What Works for Me

When I am talking on the phone, I iron or fold laundry.  If I am listening to a lecture, I take notes or scribble something unrelated.  When I drive, I listen to books on tape. My best ideas often show up when I’m not thinking.

For a long time, I tried to make myself pay attention to just one thing: smell and taste the food when I’m eating; focus on clothing while I iron; listen when people talk.

I was certain that was the right way to do things.  Everyone said so.

But that kind of presence didn’t work for me.  I gobbled food to finish eating as quickly as possible.  I left baskets of clothes unfolded.  My attention wandered when people talked.

One day, I acknowledged what I had known for years: I listen better when I’m doing something else.

Allowing My Children to Determine What Works for Them

An  article in the Wall Street Journal by Amy Chua titled Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior stirred up an avalanche of responses.  The most egregious aspect of the article was that Chua’s daughters had to do what she demanded, when and how she required.

I do not believe in parenting by total non-interference.  Parents are parents because children need guidance. When parents teach and support in a gentle, loving manner, children may benefit from our accumulated wisdom.  We show them how to navigate life on Earth.

Children also benefit from figuring out how to do things their own way. We can help our children to notice things about themselves by telling them what we observe.

  • “I see that your eyes are starting to close.”
  • “Sometimes you get cranky when you’re hungry. Have you noticed any signs that you need to eat soon?”
  • “You seem so excited about drama!”
  • “Tying your shoes is frustrating. Would you like me to show you a different way to tie?”

Let’s encourage our children to discover what works for them.

Let them discover their own how. Allow them to trust their own experience and knowing.

We can learn from our children how to support them and how to honor our own needs.

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Does your child do something his or her own way? Do you? Please share in the comments below.

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How can I follow my heart when all it wants to do is sleep?

This year, one of my (few!) intentions is to listen to my heart and to obey my inner wisdom.  I know, I know:  cliché, blasé. I’m doing it anyway. I’ve realized that all of “secret to happiness” books say the same thing because it really is that simple.

Yet only one month into the New Year, I’ve  encountered an obstacle.  My heart just wants to sleep. A lot.

I like to write at night and nap a bit during the day. Yesterday, I dropped into bed for my siesta late in the day and severely over-tired.  When I woke after an hour’s sleep, I did not want to get up.

I pulled the covers around me and asked myself, “What feels good right now?”  Yeah.  Ask a drowsy body that.  My body begged for 15 more minutes. I closed my eyes and drifted off to that lovely space between sleep and waking.  (I could stay there forever.)  When I woke for the second (or was it the third?  fourth?! time), through the fog and delight of that in-between place, I asked my heart again, “What feels good right now?” Again, I heard the yearning for continued sleep.  Then, through the haze, I perceived something else. A question:  “Which feels better? What do you want more? 30 minutes in la-la land or a strong healthy body?” (I had been so tired that I lay down before exercising.) “Which do you want more? 30 minutes of sleep — or to write a few more pages of the book?”

Ah!  The always-insightful heart-wisdom pulled me to half-awake.  It knew that even though I had to drag myself out of bed and even though I hated putting on my gym shoes, in a few months I would feel magnificent if I did this today — and tomorrow, and the day after.

When we ask our heart a question, listening intently will reveal the true response.

Sometimes, the first response comes from a place that is not our heart. My heart-wisdom does not have a whiny and pathetic voice.  It’s timbre is strong and, usually, gentle.

When I ask my heart a question and am not sure who or what responded, I ask:  “Who is speaking?”  Whether it is my ego or my heart, it must answer truthfully.

Listening to Heart-Wisdom in Parenting

All children, and particularly uniquely magnificent children, those who are autistic, ADHD, indigo or exceptionally challenging in some way, require a lot of real work from their parents.  We do the physical things:  prepare meals, launder clothing, read with them, drive them to lessons and appointments.  We are called upon to be patient and kind and loving — often when our children’s behavior does not automatically elicit gentle responses.  We do a hundred things every day to be the kind of parents we choose to be.

Each day, both in parenting and in self-care, we are presented with opportunities to live from our heart.  I often ask myself, “How can this be easy?” or “What feels good?” My first response is usually right on. However, sometimes what feels good in the moment – and usually only for that moment — would not make me feel good overall.

The energy release of slapping a defiant child might feel wonderful in the doing — particularly if you have been doing patient and loving for 30 minutes and the defiance shows no sign of yielding. But the second after the slap, the feeling of relief flips to shame and disappointment in self and to sadness for the child.  We wonder, “Why does it have to be so hard?”  (What happened to easy?)

Accessing Heart Wisdom

Here is a simple and effective way to calm yourself and access heart wisdom.

1.       Place your hand on your heart.

2.       Breathe into your heart for a count of six.

3.       Breathe out of your heart for a count of six.

4.       Continue until you feel centered and congruent with your heart.

If you are using this exercise for calming, stop here.  To access heart wisdom, continue.

5.       Ask your heart a question.  If you want to know something but aren’t sure how to phrase it, ask, “What do I need to know right now?”

6.       Listen.

Preventative Maintenance

Do the above exercise daily – or hourly – to keep yourself healthy mentally, emotionally and physically.

An Invitation

Won’t you join me in listening to your heart-wisdom?  A group of mothers and I gather by phone or Skype for a few weeks and learn to change ourselves.  Peace in our homes begins with us.

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11/11 Gateway to Easier, Happier Mothering

11/11. The ones of today’s date seem to create gates.

  • Wouldn’t it be nice if we could step through a gateway to an easier, more joyful life with our children?
  • Wouldn’t it be nice if today were the day to take this step?
Whether your are reading this on November 11 or on a day with no elevens in the number at all, consider that today can be the day. Read on for some ideas for stepping into easier, happier living.

Reaching for “A Little Better”

Are you content with life? How do you see your children today? How do you feel?

Esther and Jerry Hicks created an Emotional Guidance Scale  that helps us move from feeling bad to feeling better about whatever we are experiencing.

In looking at the chart, most of us yearn to be at the top, in the purple zone. Even the blue and green areas look good. We want to feel hopeful and happy and to appreciate our children and our lives.  However, if we are currently in the gray or burgundy zones of guilt or grief or despair, the leap to joy seems inconceivable.

Instead of aiming for giant leaps, it is usually easiest and most productive to move through one gateway at a time. Sometimes, we simply step through. At other times, we must knock and a door will open. Once in a while, we need a battering ram.

Wouldn’t It Be Nice?

One way to move up a level its to find something — anything — that feels good about the current situation.
  • In the midst of a tantrum, consider finding something good. “My child is safe. I am staying calm and looking for a good way to handle this moment.”
  • When you child struggles to communicate, consider, “We have wonderful speech therapists. Look how she tries to show  me what she wants!”
  • As your child insists on the thousandth meal of the same food, think, “It is so easy to feed him. I know what he wants.”

Celebrate Success, Celebrate Yourself and Your Child

Every step is one that brings you closer to the Joy Zone. Anger and rage may not, by conventional standards, seem like a good thing. But anger and rage let you know that your do not feel powerless. You are moving closer to hopefulness and joy.

Tools for the Journey

Please browse the blog archives for tips for really easy ways to support you as you step through each level.
Consider exploring:

Next time you see 11:11 on the clock, take a deep breath and think of one thing that feels good about that moment. Every good feeling that you focus on will bring you closer to more experiences that feel good.

 

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