“I’m the worst reader in the class,” Sara announced mid-first grade. “I’m just dumb.”
Sara’s mother was heart-broken hearing her six-year old say these words. Sara was a polite, kind, and obviously intelligent girl. Yet, because she saw other children reading chapter books while she struggled with simple readers, she had become convinced that she was stupid.
Another child might have shrugged off her lack of reading skills with, “Oh well. I’m really good at soccer. I’ll figure out reading one of these days.” For Sara, the conviction that she was inferior to her peers carried over to other parts of her life. She walked around with her head hanging. She decided that she was also a bad dancer and that no one wanted to play with her.
Why do some children move through set-backs and while others are intensely affected? Because we are born with different personalities and constitutions. Our distinctive ways of being influence our mental, emotional and physical responses to stress.
Homeopathic philosophy recognizes and honors our individual responses to stress and homeopathic remedies support children during difficult stages of growth and development.
Choosing a Remedy to Boost Confidence
Consider the remedies below and determine if one of them matches many characteristics of your child. No child will have every characteristic listed. These lists provide only a brief overview of the remedy picture.
Shy and nervous children who find social situations difficult. They lack self-confidence and are emotionally immature. They tend to be naïve and mentally sluggish.
- Bites fingernails
- Concentration difficult
- Easily embarrassed
- Fearful in social situations and of strangers
- Thinks everyone is laughing at him
- Delayed intellectual development
- Poor appetite, poor sleep, stunted growth
Bookish children who dislike sports. They dread taking on new things, though they work hard and do well in spite of their nerves. They worry about many things and lack self-confidence.
- Mature personality even at a young age
- Good natured and easy to deal with
- Aversion to responsibility
- Worried about doing something wrong
- Bites fingernails
- Difficulty learning to read
- Fear before exams
- Fear of getting lost
- Treats people very fairly, dispassionately
- Kicks and screams at night without waking
Sensitive, serious, intensely private children who appear prickly because they are not good at expressing their emotions. They suppress their feelings and dwell on old hurts. They are self-conscious.
- Children who are difficult to have around
- Life is difficult for them
- “Don’t touch me!” attitude (works through difficulties alone)
- Sad, carries a chip on her shoulder
- Strong sense of duty and commitment to overseeing the welfare of others
- Bites fingernails in private
- Cannot hide displeasure
- May have a poor relationship with one or both parents
- Difficulty expressing needs and anger with words
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These children lack grit and self-confidence. They are sensitive and serious. They will usually give way if pushed, but will quietly do what they wanted to do anyway.
- Afraid to try anything new because she is convinced that she will fail
- Anxious before exams
- Shy around strangers
- Very attached to home
- Physically delicate and emotionally sensitive
- May appear thin and malnourished
- Conscientious and tidy
- Can’t fix attention
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Sensitive children who are easily offended. They are angry and tend to blame others for their difficulties. They lack self-confidence and resent those who are doing better than they.
- Angry, with difficulty expressing anger
- Apathetic about everything
- Compliant, conscientious and hard working
- Take on too much work because it is hard for them to say no
Choose the remedy that is the best match for your child’s whole picture.
No remedy match?
There are many more homeopathic remedies that may be indicated for your child. If you want a complete consultation that will address all aspects of your child’s health and well-being, please contact a professional homeopath.
You can also take cell salts such as Calc Fluor or Calc Phos to boost self-esteem.
Raising self-confident and self-reliant children is a long-term endeavor. Children grow and learn when parents allow them to discover their own strengths and abilities by doing things on their own. When we choose our words carefully, the praise we offer is healthy, not harmful. When we allow ourselves be flexible and change our own ideas, out children learn and grow.
Update on Sara’s Reading
After a few doses of lycopdium, Sara began to sound out words. Her mother found a series about a puppy named Biscuit and Sara wanted to read for the first time ever. She also began sleeping better at night.
Six months later, her reading level (as designated by the school protocol) jumped from level 11 to level 21. She is now reading at grade level and enjoying her first chapter books.
Where to Buy and How to Take Homeopathic Remedies
Homeopathic remedies may be purchased at most health food stores or through websites such as 1-800homeopathy. For remedies, select the 30c potency. For the cell salts, select 6x.
To take the remedy, open the remedy vial and shake 3-4 pellets into the cap. Tip the pellets into the mouth without touching the cap to the mouth. Allow the pellets to dissolve in the mouth.
Give your child the remedy every evening at bedtime, at least 15 minutes after eating, drinking, and brushing teeth. Continue for one week. Observe and note any changes. If he or she is doing better overall, stop taking the remedy. If symptoms come back, take the remedy for another week.
If you do not observe positive changes in sleep, digestion, behavior and/or confidence, select a different remedy or consult a homeopath who will guide you in selecting a remedy.
In matters of health and healing, be fanatical about self-responsibility. Cell Salts and homeopathic remedies enable you to participate actively in your own healing and may compliment the care your receive from your physician and therapists. You should continue to see your doctor for examinations and for advice and treatment. Nothing on this site is intended as a substitute for medical advice.