Many children today are very sensitive. Tight clothes and seams are intolerable to them. Loud noises and bright lights overwhelm them. They are upset in crowded rooms.
The sights, sounds and sensations that go un-noticed by most people may be unbearable to autistic children and those with sensory integration differences.
Meridian Tapping (EFT) is an easy technique that might help highly sensitive children to be more comfortable in clothes and in life. Meridian Tapping involves tapping on specific points on the body while saying words related to the discomfort.
To learn to tap, please click here to view my Super Easy Tapping Guide.
Once you understand the basic tapping formula, try the following super-easy tapping method to manage and moderate sensitivities.
Begin With Yourself
Tap your karate chop point and say these set-up phrases:
- Even though my child is so sensitive and it makes my life difficult, I’m still a good mother.
- Even though he complains about everything and it is driving me crazy, I can be okay with myself.
- Even though it is hard to constantly placate him, I’m still a good person.
Next, tap through the points alternating the reminder phrases:
- My life is difficult.
- Little things are a big deal.
If these phrases don’t feel right to you, adjust them so they fit your feelings and your situation.
After a round or more of tapping on the problem, begin alternating the problem phrase with a choice phrase. For example:
|TH:||My life is difficult.|
|IE:||I choose to be easy on myself.|
|OE:||Every little thing is an issue.|
|UE:||I choose to be o.k. with that.|
|UN:||My life is difficult.|
|CH:||I choose to be easy on myself.|
|CB:||Every little thing is an issue.|
|UA:||I choose to be o.k. with that.|
|TF:||My life is difficult.|
|IF:||I choose to be easy on myself.|
|MF:||Every little thing is an issue.|
|RF:||I choose to be o.k. with that.|
|LF:||I choose to experience joy every day.|
Finally, do a whole round of tapping using positive choice statements such as:
- I choose be okay with this.
- I choose to like my life.
Tap with Your Child
Once you are in a good space with regarding your child’s sensitivities, you may consider working with your child. Always do your own work first. If you are upset, you will not be able to help her.
Do not try to teach your child to tap in the heat of the moment. She will not be receptive.
The first time you tap with your child, choose a calm, quiet time. I like to tap with my children at bedtime.
Begin with a gentle explanation that is appropriate for your child. “I have learned a magical way to make you feel better. Would you like to try it?”
You know your child best. Choose one of these methods for tapping or present your child with these choices:
1. Tap gently on your child while saying the phrases.
2. Instead of tapping, touch the tapping points gently while saying the phrases.
3. Model for your child by tapping on yourself. Encourage your child to tap on herself if she is receptive.
4. Use a doll or stuffed bear to demonstrate the tapping. Encourage your child to tap on the bear while saying the phrases. You can ask, “How does bear feel when he puts on his socks?” Let your child use her own words as she taps.
5. Use words that appeal to your child.
Set-up phrase: Even though socks hurt my feet and I want to scream, I’m still a great kid.
Tap using the formula demonstrated and described in the Super-Easy Tapping Guide.
Facilitating Comfort, Not Eliminating Ways of Being
Many autistic teens and adults say that, though their sensitivities may be painful or challenging, they would not want to give them up for it is through this intense sensitivity that they have their own experience of the world. Meridian Tapping will not want to change our children into us. It will help them to be as comfortable as possible while retaining all of their gifts.
Bigger Shifts: Matrix Reimprinting for Sensitive Children
Many children experience early traumas. Birth is traumatic. Some children receive harsh interventions as soon as they are born. Children might feel traumatized by separations from their mother, accidents, deaths in the family, being very scared for whatever reason — or a hundred other things.
Through Matrix Reimprinting work, we know that these events and incidents leave a mark on the child that will last until adulthood if it is not healed. Using surrogate Matrix Reimprinting, we can rewrite these events for the child.
If such work interests you, please join me in Group Healing Work and how reimprinting these early events can transform your child’s life.
Be gentle with your child. Be gentle with yourself. Have a peaceful day.