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Three 5-Minute Tips for Making the Transition from Summer to School Easier

There is a cool breeze and I’m wearing a sweater for the first time in two months. I won’t need it in another hour. Still, it is a poignant sign that summer is coming to an end. Ready or not, it is time to get ready for school.

After a summer of swimming, hiking, sleeping in, and running around outside, it is time to shift gears. For some children, this transition will be easy. For those who need a little help, I offer these tips.

1.     Give the Bach Flower Essence Walnut.

Flower Essences are liquid tinctures prepared from flowers. Each flower is capable of gently balancing emotional disturbances.

The flower essence for transition is Walnut. It can provide ease and confidence in moving through new situations such as adapting to a new fall schedule.

Also consider these flower essences:

  • Aspen – if your child is experiences fears of unknown origin, general apprehension, or panic attacks
  • Larch – to boost self-confidence
  • Mimulus – if your child has fears of known origin (dogs, going to school, riding the bus)

Bach Flower Essences are available at most health food stores or on-line. Give up to five at the same time by placing two drops of each that is needed in a glass or bottle of water. Have your child sip this mixture throughout the day.

2.     Train the Brain with Movement.

Movements that cross the mid-line develop coordination between the right and left hemispheres of the brain. This helps children with writing, reading, and math. I find that it also improves attention and emotional balance.

One basic move to try is the Cross Crawl. Here’s how:

March in place and touch the right hand to the left knee and then the left hand to the right knee with each step. You can also touch the (opposite) knee to elbow, touch the (opposite) foot behind the back. Continue for three minutes.

For younger children, it is fun to do these moves while singing (or chanting) confidence-building songs. For example, march while singing to the tune of Farmer in the Dell:

My feelings they create,
My feelings they create,
By attracting their own kind,
My feelings they create.

I choose to feel smart.
I choose to feel smart.
Smart — this is the way I am.
I choose to feel smart.

Spend three minutes each morning doing this before your children head out the door or before you start lessons at home. You will be amazed at the difference three minutes can make. (The song is from the book: Joyful Child)

3.     Teach Your Child How to Stay Calm and Focused with Secret Tapping.

Follow the Super-Easy Tapping Guide to learn EFT, a method that can be used to calm down fast.

When I want to quickly regain my balance using EFT with people around, I use an abbreviated method. Omit the tapping points on the face and torso and tap only on the fingers. This handy technique can be used anytime, anywhere.

Teach your children to finger tap now. When school starts, they will have this always-accessible technique “in their pocket” to be used as needed.

They could tap on simple phrases such as:

  • I’m so angry!
  • That’s so unfair!
  • I’m so frustrated!
  • I’ll never understand!
  • I’m so confused.

After a few rounds of tapping on the feeling they are experiencing, teach them to tap in an affirming phrase such as:

  • I’m still o.k.
  • I’m still a great kid.
  • I can like myself!

Bonus Tip

Use cell salts to support health in your child’s body.

Something for Mom, while the children are in school

The next session of the Swan Mothers Circle starts Sept. 23. A circle of friends who understand. Natural help tips for easier living. Support.

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Groups Do It Faster

When I was 19, I was an instructor to aspiring camp counselors. One of my tasks was to lead the young women on a hike in the Catskill Mountains of New York.

I carefully selected a trail and hiked it myself to verify the time required for this activity. I reported to the senior instructors, “It took me three hours. But I hiked straight through and went really fast. I’m sure it will take a lot longer with a group of 20 girls.”

The women in charge laughed. “It will go much faster with a group of 20 girls.” I did not believe them.

On the day of the group hike, as I had suspected, there was much laughter, much talk, and many stops for complicated photo arrangements. The girls in the lead took a wrong turn at one point and we had to back-track for a while. It felt more like ambling than hiking. And yet, we were back at the trail head in two and a half hours.

I have since learned: progress and learning are faster and easier in a group. (If you don’t have a group to support you, join mine.)

I Get By With a Little Help From My Friends

A Rainbow of Emotions

Before children, I was even-tempered, reasonably calm, and uber-logical. I never screeched or hollered as a little girl. I did not pout or throw fits as a teen. I was a quiet and content wife.

I was astounded then at the emotions my children could elicit in me:

  • Explosive anger
  • Exuberant joy
  • Intense fear

I had not known these emotions dwelt within me, yet my children could provoke them with a word, a seemingly innocuous action, or by leaning on me.

I Join a Group

The first formal woman’s circle I joined wasn’t for mothers on the verge of losing it. It was a simple meditation group.  Mostly, we sat together with our eyes closed. At that time, I wasn’t even interested in (or aware of) meditation. I joined because the opportunity showed up for me when my children were small and I needed something – anything – to get away from home one evening per month.

The act of sitting in that circle began a transformative journey that continues to this day.  One of the greatest benefits has been that I am no longer a slave to my emotions.

Just from sitting in a circle?  Yes and no.  It all started there and it has been quite a journey.  (You can read all about it in my book, Swan Mothers: Discovering Our True Selves by Parenting Uniquely Magnificent Children.)

Support for Stressed-Out Mothers

I have been sitting in women’s circles for over a decade. Some circles lasted an hour. Others have been ongoing for years. Each has enriched my life.

I encourage you to find support for your own journey by coming together with other mothers of surprising children. Learn to listen to one another without judging. Being heard is in itself a healing experience. If you prefer anonymity or can’t find a local group, consider an on-line group.

A More Structured Group

If you need a place to start, please consider joining the Swan Mothers Circle. Our next session starts September 25 and is conducted by phone and on-line, so you can participate from anywhere. Recordings are also available in case you are not able to listen at the scheduled times.

My most recent group reported that they felt the support of the circle even when they listened to the recording.  All felt the group we highly useful.
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Matrix Magic: Rewriting Old Programs and Becoming the Mother You Want to Be

What don’t you like about yourself? What patterns do you see repeating in your life? How does this affect your parenting – and your happiness?

Broken Promises, Lies and Rejection

Shirley was devastated when her child, adopted at age 12, left for college and no longer wanted anything to do with the rest of the family. Soon after, Shirley was not accepted into a graduate degree program which she felt would have allowed her to develop her life’s passion. Even though she had a supportive family and a blossoming career, Shirley felt squashed by these rejections.

During an EFT session, Shirley realized that she has had a hole in her heart since childhood. Her workaholic father seemed to love his work more than he loved her.

Frustrated and Powerless

While those around her get what they want, Kendra gets more and more frustrated. When she worked in a preschool, the children did not listen to her. Now, her own children seem to ignore her when she speaks or asks for help. She feels unheard and invisible.

While tapping, Kendra recognized that from the time she was a little girl, she has felt as if no one heard her or noticed her needs.

Repeating Patterns

Many people feel scared, betrayed, lonely, and unlovable. For some of us, the source of these feelings is obvious:

  • Childhood abuse
  • Parents who put us down
  • Teachers who shamed us
  • A humiliating incident in our teens

For others, it appears that all was well in our growing-up years, yet we still encounter these feelings.

Whether we know where our feelings originate or the source is a mystery, most of us recognize that there are repeating patterns in our lives. Even if we do not recognize the patterns in our own actions and reactions, we inevitably see them in others.

Our perceptions about ourselves and of how life treats us are reflected in the way we speak and in the way we respond to our children’s behaviors.

Mothers of Autistic Kids

Mothers of autistic children experience more stressful events and have less time for themselves than the average mother. Their levels of maternal cortisol, a hormone released by the adrenal gland in response to stress, were found to be significantly lower than normal. This condition occurs under chronic stress, yielding profiles similar to those of combat soldiers and others who experience constant psychological stress.

When we are under stress, we are most likely to revert to old patterns of speaking and acting. Amazingly, we rely heavily on behaviors acquired before the age of seven.

Changing to Choose Our Behaviors

Using Matrix Reimprinting, you can rewrite old events and change the emotional hold they have on you.

I worked with Shirley and Kendra before I learned Matrix Reimiprinting. While we were able to soften the intensity of those early incidents, I did not have a means to give them tools for changing those painful scenes.

Now, when I work with clients with similar situations, I always use Matrix Reimprinting. For Shirley, we would step into an old scene, work with her younger self (ECHO) and allow her to speak with her father if she so chose. For Kendra, we would tap until a specific incident of feeling unheard emerged. We would then work with her ECHO to find a way to feel her power and strength. By working this way, we change habitual behavior patterns.

When we feel differently about ourselves, we experience the words and actions of our children differently and we respond in a new, healthy way.

Note

It has taken you a lifetime to acquire and cement your current behavior patterns.  Even with a brilliant technique like Matrix Reimprinting, you will not change them in one session.  You can expect the best results by committing to an on-going program of work with a Matrix Reimprinting practitioner and on your own.

References

For Mothers Of Children With Autism, The Caregiving Life Proves Stressful by Terry Devitt,http://insciences.org/article.php?article_id=7507

Transform Your Beliefs, Transform Your Life: EFT Tapping Using Matrix Reimprinting by Karl Dawson and Kate Marillat

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Talking plus Tapping equals Healing

All summer I watched a cygnet swimming with his parents. At first, he was a tiny thing and the parents swam very close to him, pecking at turtles that came near. As he grew, they swam farther and showed him how to fish. They brought him to shore where he copied their grooming habits and practiced stretching his little wings. Today when I arrived at the beach, I witnessed the father swan teaching his rather grown-up cygnet to fly. The cygnet ran on the water, beating its wings. When it stopped, the father repeated the running sequence and finished by lifting his great body into a glide over the surface of the lake. Before the swans fly south for the winter, the cygnet will have learned to fly too. He’s been watching his parents all summer.

Like the cygnet, our children learn by watching and mimicking us. What we do will have a much greater impact on them then what we say. While helping our children find balance with homeopathic remedies and other natural health science methods is important, demonstrating our own commitment to heal and balance ourselves is the greater gift. When we claim responsibility for our own health and well-being, we encourage our children to do the same. If we can teach our children a simple technique for getting calm and centered, we give them a skill that will serve them throughout their lives.

Tapping + Talking = Healing

Think about a traumatic event from your past. Maybe a teacher humiliated you for not understanding something. Maybe your child had a tantrum at church and all eyes were on you. Maybe you were in a car crash or witnessed a terrible accident.Take a moment to really think about one such event. Close your eyes and notice how you feel. Is your heart beating faster? Is your throat constricting? Are you cringing? Can you feel yourself getting angry or scared or sad?

Traumatic events elicit a physical response. They cause the body to contract and harden. This tension prevents energy from circulating freely in the body.

Healing Trauma

Energy is the invisible foundation for health in the body. The body is composed of energy pathways and energy centers that are in a dynamic interplay with the cells, organs, moods, and thoughts. This is why we feel sadness and joy and fear in our bodies.

When a traumatic event disrupts the flow of energy, physical ailments and emotional imbalances may result. Sometimes, these last long after the event is over and injuries have healed.

Homeopathic remedies, acupuncture balance the flow of energy and restore harmony. Using these energetic healing techniques, we influence our health, emotions and state of mind.

When you consider the many small and BIG traumas we experience, it is easy to understand why it is necessary to dedicate time to healing for ourselves and our children. Accidents, teasing, bullying, and loss all leave their marks on us. By supporting ourselves with homeopathy and EFT, we can learn and grow from these experiences instead of being squashed and crippled by them.

What Happens When You Tap Acupoints

Most therapies address the cognitive and emotional aspects of trauma. Stimulating the meridian points using EFT or acupressure addresses the physiological component, leading to deep, lasting healing.

Learning and using EFT, a meridian tapping technique, enables you to participate actively in your own growth and healing. EFT can rebalance your body and enable you to cope with the demands of living with autistic and other uniquely magnificent children.

Background and History

More than 5000 years ago, the Chinese discovered that by applying pressure to specific points (acupoints) on the body, they could

  1. alleviate physical symptoms,
  2. improve functioning of internal organs, and
  3. balance emotions.

Acupoints have significantly lower electrical resistance than other areas of the skin and are sensitive to mechanical stimulation. In the 1980s, John Diamond and Roger Callahan began to apply acupuncture to psychological issues. A decade later, Gary Craig developed EFT.

Tension and pain accumulate at acupoints. By tapping the standard points used in EFT, you will bring balance to all of the major energy pathways in your body. As you tap, your emotions will shift. Often, old memories will surface. In this way, EFT offers a way to bring energetic disturbances to the surface to be healed. Just as blood vessels nourish the body physically, meridians circulate healing energy to all systems of the body.

Expect Results

Begin now to gently and permanently heal your own old wounds. This will make you a more effective parent, partner, and person.  For most people, working with a professional produces the quickest results.  I offer free 15-minute consultations if you would like to talk before determining if I am the right practitioner for you.  (I will happily refer you to another practitioner if we are not a match).

You can also use EFT for yourself anytime, anywhere.  All that is required is the most basic knowledge of the technique which I describe here.

As you empower yourself by actively participating in your own healing experience, you will be modeling self-responsibility and empowerment for your children.  What a gift!

In matters of health and healing, be fanatical about self-responsibility. Check facts and carefully evaluate if suggestions are right for you and your children.

 

 

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I Wish I Knew

What brings you such joy
that you gleefully giggle?
What brings you distress,
and sad, anxious sighs?
I gaze in green eyes.
I yearn to uncover
the mysteries in you
answers to whys.

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Homeopathy for Loss and Grieving

The shock, pain and sadness of loss may be experienced after any separation. For children, this may be a move to a new area, the end of a friendship, or the loss of a pet or a loved one. For a parent, the ultimate loss is the loss of a child. There are other losses that are significant: divorce, loss of independence, and loss of dreams.

Those who want to be parents but face infertility, grieve. When a child is diagnosed with a developmental dis-order such as autism or PDD-NOS, parents feel the pain of a loss for the child that could have been. It takes time to adjust expectations and embrace the life we have, rather than the life we envisioned.

Autism rights activist Jim Sinclair wrote: Parents often report that learning their child is autistic was the most traumatic thing that ever happened to them.

Some non-autistic people see autism as a great tragedy, and some parents experience continuing disappointment and grief at all stages of the child’s and family’s life cycle.

This grief does not stem from the child’s autism in itself. It is grief over the loss of the normal child the parents had hoped and expected to have. Parents’ attitudes and expectations, and the discrepancies between what parents expect of children at a particular age and their own child’s actual development, may cause more stress and anguish than the practical complexities of life with an autistic person.

Some amount of grief is natural as parents adjust to the fact that an event and a relationship they’ve been looking forward to isn’t going to materialize. But grief over a fantasized normal child needs to be separated from the parents’ perceptions of the child they do have. (I encourage you to read the whole article Don’t Mourn for Us by Jim Sinclair, from which the above is exerted.)

Advice for Bereavement

As with all the information that I provide, please take that which serves you and let the rest go.

  • Acknowledge the loss.
  • Whether the loss seems big or small, honor the feelings you are experiencing.
  • Do not feel guilty that you are grieving the fantasized normal child or your dream that your child would be playing golf or piano or talking by now.
  • All feelings are valid.
  • Be prepared for waves of emotion.

  • All of your feelings will not come at once.
  • Be gentle with yourself.
  • Feel whatever you are feeling without trying to put on a happy face – or trying to do anything.
  • Allow yourself to have your own experience.

  • Everyone processes loss differently.
  • Do not judge yourself by the experiences or time-lines of others, even if they experienced a similar loss.
  • Accept that you will learn to live with this loss and that you may never “get over it.”

  • Some losses are too big to “get over.”
  • You can laugh and go out and enjoy a meal or a movie.
  • You can enjoy life even while grieving.
  • You can be sad for “too long.”
  • You do not need to justify or explain your process.
  • Seek and accept support that is right for you.

  • Support Yourself with Cell Salts

  • The cell salts calc phos and kali phos offer gentle support for grieving mothers, fathers, and children.

Homeopathy for Loss

In the chart below, I list a few of the remedies commonly indicated for loss and grief.

Taking a homeopathic remedy will not numb your feelings or make you forget the loss. The remedy will support you and assist you in processing your emotions.

 

Remedy

Indications

Ignatia

  •  Grief with shock after the loss of a child, parent, friend or pet.
  •  Fighting the tears and swallowing your feelings.
  •  Feel a lump in the throat.
  •  Crazy laughter alternating with pitiful tears.
  • First remedy to consider for recent losses.

Gelsemium

  •  Paralysed with grief, possibly after the death of a child.
  •  Hard to cry.
  •  Sluggish. Complete lack of energy.
  •  Mind goes blank.

Nat Mur

Pulsatilla

  •  Grief-struck and weepy.
  •  Cries easily, especially when talking about what happened.

Staphysagria

  •  Resentment after loss.
  •  Angry. Blaming.

I recently came across another remedy for deep grief.  “Cygnus cygnus is a powerful remedy for deep seated grief that pervades the psyche with a deep sorrow that cannot be overcome.”  Read more here.

Where to Buy and How to Take Homeopathic Remedies

Homeopathic remedies may be purchased at most health food stores or through websites such as 1-800homeopathy.  Select the 30c potency.

To take the remedy, open the remedy vial and shake 3-4 pellets into the cap. Tip the pellets into the mouth without touching the cap to the mouth. Allow the pellets to dissolve in the mouth.

Take the remedy every evening at bedtime, at least 15 minutes after eating, drinking, and brushing teeth. Continue for one week. Evaluate how you feel. If you feel better, stop taking the remedy. If symptoms resume later, take the remedy for another week.

If you do not feel different, select a different remedy or consult a homeopath who can help you choose the correct remedy for you.

In matters of health and healing, be fanatical about self-responsibility. Cell Salts and homeopathic remedies enable you to participate actively in your own healing.  At the same time, you should continue to see your doctor and therapist for examinations, advice, and treatment.    Nothing on this site is intended as a substitute for medical advice.

References for this post:

Miranda Castro:  Homeopathic Guide to Stress:  Safe and Effective Natural Ways to Alleviate Physical and Emotional Stress.

Didier Grandgeorge, MD:  The Spirit of Homeopathic Medicines:  Essential Insights to 300 Remedies.

 

Remedy

Indications

Ignatia

  • Grief with shock after the loss of a child, parent, friend or pet.  (Very useful for recent losses.)
  • Fighting the tears and swallowing your feelings.
  • Feel a lump in the throat.
  • Crazy laughter alternating with pitiful tears.
  • Paralysed with grief, possibly after the death of a child.
  • Hard to cry.
  • Sluggish.  Complete lack of energy.
  • Mind goes blank.
  • Old grief.  Or, a new grief that awakens the unexpressed sadness from old losses.
  • See Nat Mur:  A Remedy for Almost Everybody
  • Grief-struck and weepy.
  • Cries easily, especially when talking about what happened.
  • Resentment after loss.
  • Angry.  Blaming.

Gelsemium

Nat Mur

Pulsatilla

Staphysagria

Remedy

Indications

Ignatia

  •  Grief with shock after the loss of a child, parent, friend or pet. (Very useful for recent losses.)
  •  Fighting the tears and swallowing your feelings.
  •  Feel a lump in the throat.
  •  Crazy laughter alternating with pitiful tears.
  •  Paralysed with grief, possibly after the death of a child.
  •  Hard to cry.
  •  Sluggish. Complete lack of energy.
  •  Mind goes blank.
  •  Old grief. Or, a new grief that awakens the unexpressed sadness from old losses.
  •  See Nat Mur: A Remedy for Almost Everybody
  •  Grief-struck and weepy.
  •  Cries easily, especially when talking about what happened.
  •  Resentment after loss.
  •  Angry. Blamin

Gelsemium

Nat Mur

Pulsatilla

Staphysagria

Remedy

Indications

Ignatia

  • Grief with shock after the loss of a child, parent, friend or pet.  (Very useful for recent losses.)
  • Fighting the tears and swallowing your feelings.
  • Feel a lump in the throat.
  • Crazy laughter alternating with pitiful tears.
  • Paralysed with grief, possibly after the death of a child.
  • Hard to cry.
  • Sluggish.  Complete lack of energy.
  • Mind goes blank.
  • Old grief.  Or, a new grief that awakens the unexpressed sadness from old losses.
  • See Nat Mur:  A Remedy for Almost Everybody
  • Grief-struck and weepy.
  • Cries easily, especially when talking about what happened.
  • Resentment after loss.
  • Angry.  Blaming.

Gelsemium

Nat Mur

Pulsatilla

Staphysagria

 

 

 

 

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Goodbye Tantrums, Goodbye Asthma: Two Cases of Nat Mur

Because there was significant interest in my recent post, Nat Mur:  A Remedy for (Almost) Everybody, I am sharing the healing stories of two clients for whom I prescribed Nat Mur. I hope that in reading these case studies, you will perceive how homeopathy facilitates healing transformation.

Important:  When prescribing remedies, homeopaths look for remedy that matches the individual’s picture at that time. Most homeopathic remedies have hundreds of applications. When prescribed constitutionally, remedies build health and strengthen the vital force. The individual’s vital force initiates and accelerates healing.

A remedy prescribed for migraines in one person and might well be prescribed for constipation in another and eczema in yet someone else.

Kinder, Gentler Tantrums

Lena’s mother came to see me because her five year old daughter exhibited tremendous anger over small things. She was impulsive to the point of being a danger to herself.  She was having a major tantrum or two every day, yelling, kicking, and hitting those around her. She ignored her caregivers, acting as if she did not hear them.

Lena was having trouble falling asleep and woke screaming in the middle of the night two or three times per week – sometimes more than once per night. As you may imagine, this was exhausting and emotionally draining for her mother.

She was also prone to croup, having had it at least five times in the past three winters. She craved candy, milk, and, interestingly for a small child, coffee.

After speaking to Lena’s mother, I compared the totality of her individual symptoms to the known remedies in the materia medica to find a remedy which best covered all of Lena’s expressed symptoms. I selected Nat Mur. (Please note that this is a short, illustrative article. I have not included all symptoms and characteristics discussed.)

I directed the mother to give her daughter one dose of the remedy at bedtime. Lena was also taking cell salts that I had already prescribed during an earlier consultation.

When I followed up a month after the initial consultation, Lena’s mother reported:

“She’s sleeping through the night and the tantrums no longer include aggressively hitting her little sister. She still whines and pushes, but it’s definitely not as combative as it was before. The tantrums seem to be shorter and less intense. They occur when she is hungry or tired.

All in all, it’s been a good few weeks. She’s definitely sleeping better — goes down when I put her to bed and sleeps through the night.”

The mother then said, “One of the major issues she has that I completely forgot to tell you about is eczema. Will the remedy help with that?”

Yes, I replied.  Nat mur is a great remedy for eczema in children.

Bye-Bye Asthma

Matthew’s mother was concerned because her son was allergic many common allergens and had asthma. She disliked giving him asthma medications, but the episodes could be frightening for both of them. She wanted to see if homeopathy might help.

After taking his case, I selected Nat Mur. As in Lena’s case, we gave him one dose of the remedy. A year later, I received this note from Matthew’s mother:

“Have a good update for you. Matthew has had no need for asthma medicine! He had no asthma attacks from last summer until this week when he had a mild one. Was wondering if I should give him another dose of the remedy you chose for him then. 11 months of relief is nothing to sneeze at (ok,its a pun…)”

We did give Matthew another dose of Nat Mur. He is doing well, again.

Treat the patient, not the disease.

This is the most important doctrine of homeopathy. No two human beings are exactly alike and so the medicines used for their treatment need not be alike – even if they have the same disease. Homeopathic medicines are prescribed based on the totality of symptoms of that individual.  The name of the disease is not particularly important to the homeopath.

If you are interested in individualized treatment just for you or your child, you can find a homeopath at the National Center for Homeopathy website.

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Homeopathy for Easier Dentist Visits

Many children — and adults — dread visiting the dentist. For autistic and ultra-sensitive children, such a trip may be distressing on many levels: 1.       Anticipation of pain or the unknown. 2.       Smells of antiseptics, pastes, and polishes assault the nose. 3.       Bright lights are directed onto faces. 4.       Strange sensations and sounds of drilling. Homeopathic remedies can alleviate fears and support dental health and related physical and emotional symptoms.

Top Two Remedies for Fear of Going to the Dentist

Argentum Nitricum:

A child who needs Argentums Nitricum will be very anxious about visiting the dentist. This child probably dreads other ordeals: exams in school or performing on the athletic field or on stage. Their anxiety makes them fidgety.  They make walk around quickly in an attempt to calm themselves. They feel better with someone around to support them.

Gelsemium:  Paralyzed with Fear

Children who need Gelsemium prefer to be left alone in a quiet place. Unlike the active fear of Argentum Nitricum, Gelsemium children seize up mentally and physically before dreaded events. They become dull, apathetic, weak and weary.

When and How to Give These Remedies

If your child begins to feel anxious about visiting the dentist, give one dose of the remedy that best matches his or her symptoms. He or she should feel calmer within 15 minutes. If you do not observe any change in anxiety level, give another dose of the remedy. If still no changes, try the other remedy.

Minimizing or eliminating pain associated with dental procedures and complications from dental work.

Immediately after Dental Procedures

After Surgery

It is useful to take a dose of Arnica 30 and Calendula 30 immediately after dental surgery.  If your child is is bleeding, also give Phosphorus 30.

After a Filling

If your child feels sore and bruised after a filling, give her Arnica 30. The pain may feel like pulling in the teeth while eating, be worse from chewing, and feel worse when touched. If arnica does not help and your child experiences tearing nerve pain that is worse at night and when he  moves, give Hypericum 30.

Cell salts to keep teeth healthy.

If you child’s teeth have caries or other signs of decay or deterioration, it is important to improve her diet.  This may be very challenging for some children who may have multiple food sensitivities or allergies or who strenuously refuse to eat a varied diet. For some ideas on expanding diet, see When Your Child Won’t Eat. The cell salts calc phos, calc fluor, mag phos, and silica will significantly improve tooth health. Give your child three tablets of each applicable cell salt three to five times per day. To treat enamel deficiencies, give Calc Fluor and Calc Phos. Mag Phos helps to harden enamel. Silica aids in the assimilation of nutrients. In matters of health and healing, be fanatical about self-responsibility. Cell Salts and homeopathic remedies enable you to participate actively in your own healing. At the same time, you should continue to see your doctor for examinations, advice and treatment. Nothing on this site is intended as a substitute for medical advice.

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Nat Mur: A Remedy for (Almost) Everybody

A few weeks ago, I visited with my colleague and former classmate, Jeff Sorna. As we enjoyed the type of homeopathy talk that only true remedy enthusiasts can appreciate, Jeff said, “Who, today, doesn’t need some Nat Mur once in a while?”

Synchronicity, ever at play in our lives, subsequently led two clients to express an interest in learning more about this remedy. Because it has so many uses, I thought more of you might be interested.

Why Most People Occasionally Need Nat Mur

The homeopathic remedy Natrum Muriaticum (Nat-m or Nat Mur) is prepared from sodium chloride or common table salt. After water, salt is the most widely distributed substance in a nature, so it is not surprising to discover that many people need it as a homeopathic remedy.

Nat mur is the remedy for ailments from suppressed grief, disappointments, and haunting memories.  Most of us have more than a few of these types of old hurts.  When they manifest as some of the symptoms in the lists below, nat mur may be the remedy needed.

People who need nat mur may have some of these characteristics:

  • Gloomy and depressed
  • Desires to be alone
  • Irritable, private, resentful, sensitive (including to noises)
  • Headaches
  • Cold sores
  • Catch colds easily
  • Discharges like egg white
  • General dryness
  • Eczema
  • Dry mouth, extreme thirst
  • The lower lip sometimes has a crack in the middle
  • Constipation

Children who need nat mur may have the characteristics listed above.  Here are a few more signs and symptoms of children who may need nat nur:

  • Catherine R. Coulter writes:  “Natrum Muriaticum is not the easiest child to have around.”
  • Serious and sensitive
  • Find life difficult
  • Dislike excess physical contact
  • Hate being teased
  • Prone to unexpected rages
  • Best left alone  when upset
  • Often slow learning to talk
  • Sometimes slow learning to walk

Nat Mur as a Cell Salt

No individual will have all of the symptoms or characteristics of a homeopathic remedy.   Because homeopathic remedies are prescribed for individuals, not for diseases, three people prescribed the same remedy will likely have come to see their homeopath for three very different complaints.

If you or your child have many of the symptoms listed above, you may wish to consider taking Nat Mur as a cell salt. Take three pellets, three times per day for a month or two. Watch for changes in your symptoms. Note if you feel better in general or notice:

  • Better sleep
  • Calmer
  • Improved elimination

For on-going or serious issues, schedule an appointment with a homeopath who will ensure that the remedy prescribed is the correct remedy for you.

References for this post:

Miranda Castro.  Homeopathic Guide to Stress.

Catherine R. Coulter.  Homeopathic Sketches of Children’s Types.

Lionel Rolfe & Nigey Lennon.  Nature’s 12 Magic Healers:  Using Homeopathic Cell Salts to Protect or Restore Health.

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One Day, Two Homeopathy Stories

Soon after I prepared my Homeopathy for Summer post, I was provided with two opportunities to follow my own advice.

Bumped Heads, Swollen Tongue

One beautiful summer day, I got to spend time with two friends and their families. As our visit was coming to an end, two little girls bumped heads. One girl cried for a minute, but quickly recovered from the unpleasant surprise. The other girl bit her tongue during the incident.We could see that her tongue was bleedingas she let out a few screams before settling into the comfort of her mother’s lap.

Because the tongue was already turning purple and swelling, I administered (with her mother’s permission) a high potency of arnica (1M). She was distressed and did not want us to put the remedy in her mouth. After a few minutes, she let her mother pour the pellets into her hand and nibbled them.

I share this method of administration especially for those who have heard that you can never touch homeopathic remedies because this will inactivate them. While it is standard practice to put the pellets into the cap and to tip them into the mouth, it is important to be gentle and loving in administering care. We do not want to traumatize a child (or adult) further by forcing them to put pellets in their mouth in a way that is not comfortable for them.

After about ten minutes in her mother’s embrace, the tongue appeared to be back to its original size. The girl got up and resumed playing. The teeth marks were still evident. We put a few pellets of calendula 30c in her water bottle to assist with the wound healing.

Another important component of this healing: From the first shriek until she returned to playing, the little girl was lovingly supported by her mother as she processed the pain and shock of the incident and released it.

Chair Squashes Toe

Later, my friends left for home and I went for a walk. It was a beautiful evening. I saw six hot-air balloons sailing over the lake. My children were running around happily. The temperature was cool and pleasant.

When I returned, my daughter calmly announced, Mama, I think my toe might be broken. Camp was scheduled to begin in three days.

I soon learned that her brother, who likes to rock on his chair, had landed the chair on her foot. Fortunately, she was wearing shoes and knows how to use basic homeopathic first aid remedies. She had already taken arnica and hypericum from my first aid kit. She had left her shoe on to protect the toe.

When she removed her shoe, it was very obvious which toe was injured. The fourth toe was pink and swollen to almost double the size of its neighbors. I gave her another dose of hypericum 200c. Ten minutes later, she said her toe felt better, but she’s a good sport and the swelling looked the about same to me, so I gave her a dose of arnica 10M. Twenty minutes later, the toe had returned to its normal size. I asked her to gently bend and flex her toes. She was able to do this without pain.

Just Add Verbal First Aid

When I wrote this post, I had not yet read the magnificent book Verbal First Aid.  Please read: When our children get hurt, the words we say can initiate healing or exacerbate the trauma.

Do you need your own homeopathic remedy kit? You can purchase one from 800homeopathy or Washington Homeopathic. If those kits are too bit, consider putting together your own. Here’s what’s in mine.

Homeopathic remedies are very effective and often produce amazing results. However, they do not replace professional medical care. In matters of health and healing, be fanatical about self-responsibility. Seek medical attention immediately for all serious or potentially serious injuries.

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